There a lot that can make
marriage sweeter in spite of all the
stunts, but it lies between the two parties to make it. These are few tips that
can help marriage last longer:
Fear of God
We talked about
how important the fear of God is and even though this sounds very cliche you
cannot underestimate how relevant this is for your marriage. Your husband/wife
is a human being at the end of the day, so don't think your
handsomeness/beauty, money, influence, good manners, respect and submission can
keep them faithful and happy. Only God can. If they have the fear
of God it will be difficult to do certain things and to think they can get away
with it because of the God-foundation.
Be Best Friends
Next is
friendship, it is a more enjoyable marriage when you marry your best friend. Marriage
is a forever thing so you may as well go the distance with someone you
enjoy their company. On some days you are lovers, on other days you are like
siblings and on some days you are best friends. Friendship is so important
because it builds love.
Love Must Dey
I ask her how far
love na? She said "love need to dey". Love is the deeper part
of the friendship, try to think about it as the glue that binds a couple
together. Love renews the friendship. Even the Bible says love covers multitude
of sins, it is love that will make you forgive when offended it will make you
kind, it is patient, is is not proud (so can say sorry).
Thank You Darling!
It is healthy to
show appreciation to your partner in any way you can. You can give gifts (it
doesn't have to be birthdays/anniversary), you can give loving words of
encouragement, like "thank you darling for helping me..." "I
appreciate that you try to make dinner..." "I just thank God I
married you...", sweet words like that can go a long way!
Communicate
Please
communicate and it is not as easy as saying "hello, hi". Speak,
listen, understand! Don't expect your partner to be a mind reader. If you feel
there's an issue that needs to be sorted, talk about it, Don't keep
things inside, it will make you nurse bad feelings and will destroy the
friendship in your marriage.
Respect Is Reciprocal
I didn't expect
the conversation to end without talking about R-E-S-P-E-C-T! "Men eat
respect", she says. Respect feeds their ego, don't puncture it. Always
boost your partner. Don't talk your husband/wife down. don't make them feel
unimportant. help him/her achieve their dreams. You should be their number one
cheerleader!
No Malice!
For Misan,
not sleeping on your anger has helped a lot in her marriage, in fact, this
is koko! Don't keep things till the next day-make the decision not to
carryover anger, no malice (I mean, this should be your best friend!). Don't
let quarrels linger (you will have them), if you let it, small things will
start escalating.
We talked about
more and I'm glad she shared these wise words with me. I know I have a lot of
married people that read my blog, so please let me know what has helped
your marriage so far...
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