Before I got married people did not let me
hear word-it was as if they looked for different opportunities to remind me
that, Nne, time is no longer on your side, a woman is like
a flower and withers quickly, "ale obirin o kin kpe su"...they
were only wishing me well. It is good to get married early (if it happens) but
if it doesn't...here are 7 reasons why getting married later is not a terrible
thing.
1.
You
have time to DISCOVER yourself. The emphasis is on "discovery"
because a lot of people go through life not knowing who they really are, the
more you wait before getting married the more you're likely to discover
yourself, your ideal career and generally the type of life you want.
2.
Perspectives
change as we get older. What I liked and wanted when I was 19 totally changed
when I was in my mid twenties-even though I could swear say na like
this I like my own thing at 25, I ended up not liking at 27. People
change, give yourself allowance to grow and change.
3.
You
have time to be "free". Make decisions without real consequences.
Travel. You can even afford to live from alert to alert without any sense of
responsibility. Why do you think there's the term "responsible
married man/woman"? You can buy anything with your last dime. Sleep
over at your friends house 3 times a week...you no send anybody. Go on soun,
explore!
4.
You
grow up. Maturity for some people is not about age, but with age comes
experience and experience teaches you how to handle life. Your expectations are
more realistic-you don't believe marriage is about taking selfies, seksing and
living happily ever after. Marriage is not for children.
5.
Build
your future. If you're smart, the time before you get married is time you can
use to focus on your career, start a business, even it it fails, you start
again all because of point 3. Invest your self in building and saving for your
future because marriage may "slow you down" career wise if you're a
woman.
6.
You
know what you want. Not because you know it all but because you've had time to
discover yourself, what you like and what you refuse to deal with (I use the
term "refuse" because it's a choice you're making to deal with
something or not). You basically know yourself and now you know yourself you
know what you who and what you want in a relationship and marriage.
7.
You
are grateful. When you eventually get married you appreciate it more because
you remember all the times you spent catching bouquets at all your friends
weddings (not that it's a terrible thing). Single? You've been there, done that
and you are 100% in this phase of life you're in now. You do not feel like you
missed out on anything.
These
are some of the many advantages of getting married later so if you're still
single...enjoy it while it lasts and appreciate every season of your life. Let
me know if you got married later and the advantages and disadvantages you faced
in the comments section.
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