The ongoing feud between blogger, Linda Ikeji and talented
singer, Ayo Balogun, a.k.a Wizkid took another twist, Sunday, after Linda
confirmed that she had reported the public threat issued against her by Wizkid
to the Nigerian Police. In a post on her blog, Linda wrote: ”
I’m sure many of you have read that the police is now involved in my issue with Wizkid. Yes, I reported his public threat to me two Sundays ago to the Lagos State Commissioner of Police and I want to explain why I did it!
I’m sure many of you have read that the police is now involved in my issue with Wizkid. Yes, I reported his public threat to me two Sundays ago to the Lagos State Commissioner of Police and I want to explain why I did it!
Please pay attention and keep an open mind. I’ve read a lot
online from people saying I don’t like Wizkid. Even Wizkid himself thinks I
don’t like him. Why he or anyone would think so is puzzling to me to be honest.
Apart from his achievements after he started insulting me online a few weeks
ago…everything else, every success Wizkid has recorded in the last 3/4 years is
on LIB. All the awards, all the record breaking feats, his sold out concerts,
his foreign magazine features, and collaborations, everything that has built
him up to the young man he is today is on LIB. Please verify! Search my blog.
Please continue…
I was a huge Wizkid fan. The only song I danced harder to
than his ‘Dance For Me’ track was Fuse ODG’s ‘Antenna and Kiss Daniel & DJ
Shabzy’s Raba. So, no, I had no dislike for Wizkid. But about a year ago, I
noticed his indirect snide remarks at me…and when some other music star beefed
with me, Wizkid showed his support and made disrespectful comments. That was
when I noticed he had issues with me… but that didn’t stop me from writing
about him and celebrating him. Now to the issue at hand.
When I reported that he was served quit notice at his Lekki
home, I stated fact and I didn’t write it out of malice. It’s not everyday you
get exclusive stories…and I’m sure any other blogger who got the story first
would also have published it. So, there was no beef, I was just doing my job. A
day or so after I wrote this story, Wizkid went on my instagram page to call me
names and lied that I slept with some director of his…which I have said before
is 1000% lies! But the insult and lies is not why the police is now involved.
Here’s the thing; You can insult me, insult my family, call
me any names you like, even lie that I slept with your forefathers…but don’t
threaten me. If you threaten me, I will act! I read people online saying that I
reported to the police because I am scared of Wizkid. No, my darlings, I am not
afraid of Wizkid.
Though, I do not take his threats lightly. I went to the
authorities for two reasons…and please young boys of our generation, pay attention
to what I am about to write below. You see, violence against women and threat
of violence against women is not okay. Threatening harm to someone in a public
space is a criminal act in every country of the world, including Nigeria. I bet
some of you didn’t know that, yeah? You can not publicly threaten someone with
harm. You will only get away with it if your victim doesn’t report to the
authorities. If they do, you will have a case with the police and I promise
you, the police take these things seriously. I reported this case to the
authorities because I want our young men to know this is not okay. You should
not raise your hands on a woman. You shouldn’t even threaten to raise your
hands on a woman. Wizkid wrote that he would send his 16 year old cousin to
beat the shit out of me. Letting Wizkid get away with it is basically telling
our young men that this is okay…and it’s not!
After Wizkid made the threat to me, I saw a lot of teen boys
hailing and applauding him. To them, this was okay. If their idol can threaten
a woman with harm, and use derogatory words, they also can do it…and that’s how
the circle of abuse of women continues. Women being called ‘smelly pussy’
trended online for a day or two! Little boys were happy to use the words. Sad!
It is appalling to me that anyone, especially women, would cheer Wizkid on.
When he wrote RIP Linda, I saw a few young girls write same,
laughing. This is not a laughing matter. It doesn’t matter whether you like me
or not! This is not about Linda Ikeji. This is about abuse of women which has
eaten deep into our society, so deep that it has now been accepted as normal.
Men do it all the time and get away with it. So many women are battered by
their husbands and they refuse to speak up because of the stigma. They refuse
to seek help because they are afraid of what people will say. I am sorry,
I am not one of those women. I refuse to be victimized. And
as long as I have my voice and my platform, I will speak up. We women have to
come together to lend a strong voice to the plight of women in our continent.
When we see a woman being physically and mentally abused, let’s act. Let’s
speak up. Let’s not laugh and say she deserves it. If we continue to keep
quiet, the circle of abuse will continue. And one day, You, yes You, will find
yourself in the receiving end of a thundering slap, followed by heavy blows. If
not you, then maybe your daughter? Let’s condemn violence and threat of
violence against women! This is not acceptable! Young men like Wizkid, a father
of two young boys himself, should never advocate violence against women. One
day, he will have a daughter, how would he feel if another male threatens to
put hands on her or even calls her a hoe? I can’t count how many times Wizkid
called me a hoe in his rant against me.
That’s what boys do.
When they get into a fight with a woman, they try to slut-shame her. Smelly
pussy, hoe, ashawo etc. You call a woman, who gave another young woman, whose
real name she doesn’t even know N500,000 just because she said she would rather
work by carrying cement than prostitute herself, that’s the person you call a
hoe? When your mind is so warped you can’t differentiate between a woman and a
hoe, then this is what happens. Except you drive to Sanusi Fanfuwa at 2am to
pick up a prostitute, who proudly describes herself as one, then you shouldn’t
call any woman a hoe.
Even Tupac who was a
well known thug could differentiate between the types of women he dealt with.
When asked in an interview why he called women bitches, he said people shouldn’t
confuse things, that he wouldn’t address a mother or a sister the way he would
address a bitch, that the bitches were the ones he dealt with in the clubs who
behaved like one. He reiterated that he respected women! In more civilized
countries, Wizkid would have lost his endorsements and spent the next year or
so apologizing and being in the fore-front of promoting anti-violence crusades
against women. It took Chris Brown years to get back on his feet after his
assault on a woman.
Up till today, he doesn’t have any major endorsements and
some countries still deny him entrance into their country i.e Australia for
something he did 7 years ago. Yes, violence against women is serious! And
there’s the case of incitement. When you have power and influence, you have to
be careful what you say in public. Because you have such power, something you
say can influence your followers.
A fan can commit acts that even you may not support or might
not even condone. But because it came out of your mouth, they think you mean
it. So it is irresponsible to say things that might be inciteful. In Law, you
can be held responsible when people act based on what you said in public. Tupac
was charged to court and indicted after some thugs killed a police officer. The
thugs went to court and mentioned that their idol encouraged violence against
LA police officers in a song where he said ‘Drop a cop’. So, we folks with some
measure of influence should be more careful with our utterances. People are
watching and listening! The second reason I filed a police report is to
encourage other women in similar situations to do same.
My dear ladies, if a man threatens to puts hands on you, and
you feel the threat is real, report to the authorities. Don’t wait until he
does it. What if you don’t survive it? If he’s picked up and may be charged to
court (yes, you can be charged to court for making threats…it’s a misdemeanor
with a prison sentence), then he will think twice before making threats against
you in the future or any other woman for that matter. I went as far as I did
for me and for other women.
This is to pass a strong message to our young men that these
kinds of behaviour towards women will not be tolerated. Should not be
tolerated. If you assault or even threaten to assault a woman, the law will
come after you if she chooses not to be silent. Women, don’t be silent. Let’s
break the circle. For your sake, for my sake, for the sake of our daughters,
grand daughters, great grand daughters and all other women that will follow
them. And that’s really all I have to say in the matter. Thank you guys for
reading And to Wizkid fans, please be rest assured that I wish him all the best
in life. He will continue to grow from strength to strength (as long as he
doesn’t endorse violence against women) and his light will never diminish. God
brought him to this level and will continue to keep him. I have nothing but
love for his craft and hope that one day, we will put this behind us. God bless
him, me, you and everyone else in the world.
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